tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24802455969789248562024-03-15T12:07:53.610-07:00SARA NILES: Make It CountSARA NILES. Author and Social Media Influencer.
Books, Essays, Social Awareness
The lives we live determine our passions, and our passions impact the lives we live, in a dynamic, reciprocal pattern.
My Life inspired me to write Memoirs:
TORN From the Inside Out, The Journey, Out of the Maelstrom, Essays, Opinion Editorials, and social narratives that shed light during dark times.
Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.comBlogger207125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-14261569514405321282024-01-21T15:22:00.000-08:002024-02-23T08:44:29.649-08:00TORN From the Inside Out & THE JOURNEY<p> MEMOIRS</p><p>In <b>1973, </b>a young woman, barely sixteen years old, and a zealous member of a cultist religious group, married a twenty-three year-old man, also a member of a the same religious group:</p><p><span face="AmazonEmber-Regular" style="background-color: white; color: #757474; font-size: 15px;">Fifteen years of abuse and five children later, Sara Niles fled for her life, crossed three state lines, and finally landed in a Safe Port. The Journey is the story of the Niles Family, especially the Children who grew up in a violent and traumatic environment. </span></p><p><span face="AmazonEmber-Regular" style="background-color: white; color: #757474; font-size: 15px;"><b>TORN </b>From the Inside Out tells the story of Sara Nile's abuse and eventual escape. The Journey is the rest of the story.</span></p><p><span face="AmazonEmber-Regular" style="background-color: white; color: red; font-size: large;">Links in Sidebar: Click Book Images</span></p><p><br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjv7d79paqdFHW7Btueq3pKCTHZP2aM0RK9EaaHhPO3zIBw-iwhHe-Y0bIbFrTI0IL2loAyoQVbbei2bpd0BsOTt7PUvuQd3qXRBoW0MgvRJovmYVvZAqaGqmcMgjxnxRoZcfAls0QARB4FmCAN530Bbf7He454iuWBoSSP6swZOS9rAkhWOcevpSMZ4LKB/s1050/TINYxTORnCov.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1050" data-original-width="700" height="231" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjv7d79paqdFHW7Btueq3pKCTHZP2aM0RK9EaaHhPO3zIBw-iwhHe-Y0bIbFrTI0IL2loAyoQVbbei2bpd0BsOTt7PUvuQd3qXRBoW0MgvRJovmYVvZAqaGqmcMgjxnxRoZcfAls0QARB4FmCAN530Bbf7He454iuWBoSSP6swZOS9rAkhWOcevpSMZ4LKB/w168-h231/TINYxTORnCov.jpg" width="168" /></a></div><p></p><blockquote style="border: none; 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color: #757474; font-size: 15px;"><br /></span><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-35545482340247367272023-04-19T19:37:00.003-07:002023-04-19T19:37:53.498-07:00Sample Torn From the Inside Out<p> https<span style="background-color: white; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic; font-weight: 700;">MEMOIR</span></p><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">Psychological Drama </span><div><span style="color: #0f1111; font-family: Amazon Ember, Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span></span><ul class="a-unordered-list a-vertical" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 18px; padding: 0px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="a-list-item" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">INTENSE</span></span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="a-list-item" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">Insightful</span></span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="a-list-item" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">Malignant Narcissism</span></span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="a-list-item" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">Literary Narration</span></span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word;"><span class="a-list-item" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">Trauma</span></span></li></ul><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">TORN From the Inside Out<br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />'A Pain so Great as to Tear the Soul Inside Out'</span><span class="a-text-italic" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic !important;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" />On a sunny day in </span><span class="a-text-bold a-text-italic" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic !important; font-weight: 700 !important;">1960,</span><span class="a-text-italic" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: italic !important;"> a white haired, eighty-year-old man, walked up a steep hill deep in the countryside of Southern Arkansas, and walked away with a three- and one-half year old, little dirty girl-child, riding high atop his shoulders, holding tightly onto the old man’s bald head. The little girl was scared, hungry, as always, and she had no idea of the home she was going to. The little girl had been given away by her biological mother to an elderly Great-uncle, the brother of her maternal grandmother. That little girl was Me, Sara Niles.</span><span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /></span><p>://www.amazon.com/Torn-Inside-Out-2023-Memoir-ebook/dp/B0BRX8K3TW/</p></div>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-50128569142019897732023-03-11T14:43:00.000-08:002024-02-26T09:11:50.359-08:00You Are ALONE: Relationship with Your Narcissist<p><span style="background-color: #f3f3f3;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b style="background-color: #f3f3f3;">Your Lonely Life with The Narcissist</b></span><span style="font-size: 20pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">In the egocentric world
of </span><b><span style="color: red; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 20.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">Your Narcissist</span></b><b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">,</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;"> YOU
do not exist, at least not as a real person. You exist as a service provider, a
status symbol, or simply a source of emotional ‘supply,’ that they gain through
a toxic feed-back loop. The REAL you, the one they seem to laud when they are
in a state of dysregulation and must recharge your batteries through that
intense ‘thing’ that they do-<i>LOVE Bombing</i>. The minute your narcissistic
son, daughter, partner, or friend, realizes you are becoming fed up with
them-they flip the switch and turn on the charm. The charm is not a genuine
recognition of your strengths, although they know you have them, the charm is a
tool of manipulation. It is like petting the cow before you milk her, a
veritable ‘Here Kitty-Kitty’ routine designed to set the stage from round two,
or after years of abuse, round number one thousand, Welcoming you to <i><span style="background: #FFA400;">Gold Star status</span> </i>in the Twilight
Zone of <b><i>Trauma-Bonding.</i></b></span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">It is not like you never
suspected something was wrong with your ‘person,’ or imagined they were
defective in their social skills, to say the least. The truth is you had no
idea they were <i>Fake Entities</i>, made up of <i>pure deception and
fraud</i>. It is even more likely that you never knew there is a name for your
person: <i>Narcissist,</i> and that that are descriptive and definite
categories which your narcissist fits into like a glove. If your narcissist is
covert, their ‘mask’ was so well developed that it may have taken you decades
to identify them as </span><span style="color: red; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 20.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-ligatures: none;">The Problem</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;"> and not you. Like a snake
slithering in the grass, they camouflage themselves with superficial charm and
intense emotional storms of ‘gratitude’ and pleas for forgiveness, leaving you
only one noble response-to brush the erroneous behavior aside as a mistake.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">Despite the gross
manipulations, your inner warning signs set off alarms that you ignored or
excused, chalking it up to some <i>eccentric nuance </i>uniquely
theirs. You always suspected something was not right with <i>Your
Narcissist,</i> but they were so good at covering their tracks that you
discounted your concerns. People who exist in their own realm hiding behind
deception and a false identity, are like ‘Actors’ in which the ‘Stage’ is real
life; yet there is no reality. The Narcissist is a walking, talking, oxymoron,
an ironic, enigmatic conceptualization of all the best parts of a normal
personality, yet peppered with confusing behaviors that are far from normal. It
is like an Actor entered your life at some point and never left the role. The
REAL person that you thought was great, never existed.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">The reason most
narcissistic people develop a penchant for deception and role playing is
simple: they know they are flawed, but <u>refuse to accept it</u>;
instead, they create a false image composed of everything that YOU like, like a
custom-made persona. The Narcissistic person is often a good worker, and very
intelligent, so they are capable of understanding what is expected of them, and
they can deliver. The Narcissist at work may perform exceptionally well in many
types of settings, in the church system, they are saints, among friends, they
are ‘<i>the best</i>,’ always willing to help, but at home? At Home is a
different story because the average narcissist gets comfortable at home in
their own environment and they feel <i>entitled</i> to be themselves,
to kick off their shoes and remove the mask.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">The problem with a
narcissist being ‘themselves’ is <i>which</i> self will they be
today? The Abusive Tyrant raging because they were frustrated or dissatisfied,
or even bored? Or will they put the mask on and play a game of <i>“Love
Bombing</i>’ to keep the targeted person in the relationship duped?</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">In all of the chaos of
narcissistic games, unpredictable behaviors, and rollercoaster cycling up and
down from happy to sad, the victim is fully <i>alone</i> in the room,
wherever ‘the room’ may be. The Love Bombing stage makes it seem like the
narcissists care about you and are willing to ‘see’ you and listen to you, but it
is like a quick breeze on a hot day, it quickly passes. The 'love' of a
narcissist is like the taste of honey that was not honey at all.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 24pt;">Loneliness</span></i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;"> gradually
sets in, where you feel as though the narcissistic family member or partner is not
aware of you as a person. This is apparent when you are excited over your good
news, or a personal accomplishment, and you rush to immediately share with Your
Narcissist, with your eyes wide and your heart full of cheer, only to have your
news discounted in favor of a distraction. Right in the middle of your notice
that you received a promotion in which your salary was doubled, they will
nonchalantly ask if you remembered to buy milk on the way home. Flabbergasted,
you answer “No,” because who is thinking of milk with such tidings to bear? The
energy of the revelation is halted, cold water thrown on your lifetime
accomplishment, so for a brief moment, you have a flash of anger; but not
willing to further ruin your announcement, you ignore it. A huge Red Flag was
just waved in your face, by years of conditioning has trained you to keep quiet
and forget about it.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">In another scenario, you
just enjoyed a great movie and want to share, when they break the flow of happy
cheer with mundane distractions:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">‘Hey, let’s go to my mom’s,”
or ‘I think I am going to run a quick errand-be right back;’ even worse, they
pick a fight over something inconsequential right in the middle of your story.
Your joy and happiness were once again interrupted. Years may pass before you
feel the impact. Y<i>ou are alone in your own world, there is no room for you
in the narcissist’s world</i>. After endless pointless conversations in which
you attempted to make your concerns known to your narcissist, you accept the
fact they do not live on the same planet with you.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">The sudden realization
that your narcissist does not ‘hear’ you or ‘see’ you, is like an abandonment,
even a death. The person you loved with all your heart, and whom you sacrificed
much of your own happiness for their comfort, as Brett Butler said to Scarlet
O’Hara, does not “Give a Damn.” It is over. The illusion is broken, and the
‘relationship’ you thought you had, never truly was a true ‘relationship’
between two present and participating adults. It was a ‘relationship’ of One.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">The mind is an amazing
tool that adapts to the circumstances it functions in; therefore, cognitive
distortions put in place, begin to crumble. An earthquake takes place, and your
world is turned into a shambles, as the brain and heart experiences a total
reorganization-as everything that ‘was,’ is no more.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 20pt;">You are truly Alone.</span></i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; text-align: justify;"><span style="background: rgb(244, 204, 204); font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 24pt;">Sara
Niles</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></div><br /><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-75306779712041108762023-02-18T18:35:00.000-08:002023-02-18T18:35:08.397-08:00The NARCISSIST You Married Wore a Mask<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZXv0tS8WWIy8PKB6OxMOKXT-KPwmKATCzTOVrv49iYydgtSN4DS-dMm9bqABs-CyqSQtzNN38MWnssKDNNncBijFK9dUBW-B-sqNq5_dGK33hIHTLIZgNoySSN0jbgLoTD2UfMbvhL0gcvGysE_Jy3HN8dfr52ILIEAsAj_WB1ts45t4osvYxlGf5Fw/s5213/AdobeStock_86733641.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5213" data-original-width="3475" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZXv0tS8WWIy8PKB6OxMOKXT-KPwmKATCzTOVrv49iYydgtSN4DS-dMm9bqABs-CyqSQtzNN38MWnssKDNNncBijFK9dUBW-B-sqNq5_dGK33hIHTLIZgNoySSN0jbgLoTD2UfMbvhL0gcvGysE_Jy3HN8dfr52ILIEAsAj_WB1ts45t4osvYxlGf5Fw/w266-h400/AdobeStock_86733641.jpeg" width="266" /></a></div>Narcissists are everywhere, because they have always been everywhere, we just did not know them for what they truly were behind the masks-in the shadows lurking.<p></p><p>The secretive self of the typical narcissist is an unbridled ID without a fully developed EGO and an Warped Super-Ego; but most are very intelligent people who know how to hide in plain sight.</p><p>You can Marry a Narcissist and live with them for fifteen years before you understand the dark enigma. Fifteen years of wondering if you were 'crazy' because he, or SHE, will make you think that you have lost your mind. The take the truth and make it a lie, and the lie becomes truth. Gaslighting is their second language and they are fluent in it; if you say 'Blue' they swear you said 'Red', and will argue and deflect until you give in and swear you are becoming forgetful and absent minded; after all, there will be no peace unless they are right.</p><p>But there are the Good Days when this human in hiding is charming and sweet, loving and 'kind'; but can it really be so, after being cursed and degraded the day before? Or, is is that confounded Love Bombing you just heard about?</p><p>You lost yourself years ago, out of a duty to keep the peace and eliminate unnecessary strife, as you found yourself giving up and giving in more and more often. Eventually you wonder where you ended and they began, or even if there is a 'you' left. Everything you do is to please and keep the peace, to absolve, compromise, abstain, suppress and regress. You have stepped yourself all the way backwards as the world passes you by...but The Narcissist has Grown in power over the years until they are drunk with stolen power-YOURS.</p><p>Then it happened-the light shone in and you began to see what was hiding in the dark behind the mask all along. The rollercoaster emotional journey of intense love and hate, happiness and cruelty, lies and deceit, took its toll on you until one day your woke up to the fact that the Stranger your married was a Narcissist. </p><p>Not just ANY type of Narcissist, but a fully developed Covert Narcissist- a genuine Snake in the Grass. And you thought you had married 'one of the good ones'. The joke was on you.</p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-63931167218027467162022-10-29T19:27:00.001-07:002022-10-29T19:27:20.264-07:00The Dangerous CULT of the Malignant Narcissist<p> </p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 20pt; line-height: 107%;"><b>Narcissists Have a Love Affair With Power</b><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 20pt; line-height: 107%;"><br /></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">An
individual narcissist operates within a <i>microsystem </i>or a <i>macrosystem</i>, a small
family or a large organization, even a government, in which <i>power</i> is the <i>‘drug’</i>
of choice in either sphere.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The reason
<i>narcissists love power</i> is because it is a compensatory tool that enables them
to feed their ego continuously, <i>IF </i>they have an unlimited source of power to
draw from.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The archaic
and dystopian stories in which Vampires are viewed as blood seeking Romantics,
is weirdly applicable to narcissists: they FEED off the power of others, and
when The Narcissist has a big ego and voluminous spaces in which to find ‘<i>Supply</i>’
they <i>Feed Voraciously, sucking the psychic energy from their victims</i>. The irony is The Malignant Narcissist with a supersized
Ego needs a large supply of fuel, but it is never enough, because they are
insatiable. The Narcissistic Fuel Tank is never <i>‘full’ </i>because their ‘<i>Tank’</i> has
holes in it. The Narcissist’s Ego is unhealthy and empty, The Narcissistic ‘Self’
is Empty; therefore, the Fake Self, the perpetually Masked Self is not real.
The ‘Fuel’ supplies the fake persona of a sick and selfish individual.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">There is
more than one type of Narcissist,</span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/OlJbgAjQ44g" width="320" youtube-src-id="OlJbgAjQ44g"></iframe></div>SARA NILES<br /><span style="font-size: medium;"> but the one most easily recognized loves the
public light, the appearance of success and riches and they seek power to keep
this image intact, lying and stealing if necessary to secure their spot as ‘<i>King
or Queen of the World.’ </i>Malignant Sociopathic Narcissists tend to become
greedier and darker as they age, while cultivating a <i>Power Lust.</i> Family bonds, and
alliances are viewed as ‘<i>tools’ a</i>nd they will readily abandon relationships and
betray alliances if it benefits them in the short term.</span><o:p></o:p><p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Most
Narcissists live in the ‘moment’ while acting on childish impulses. The intelligence
of individuals is hindered by their ego driven behavior, as they resort to the
<i>ID </i>stage of egocentrism, when they are cornered. The outside appearances may
denote a successful and powerful person in charge of their lives, with planned
strategies in place, yet they make decisions like a child when in stressful
situations. This public narcissist is presented on fully display before the world, yet they manage to assuage the concerns of others with a glib and superficial charm-just like in a microsystem-so in the macrosystem.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height: 107%;">In a family
setting, an abusive narcissistic parent or partner, presents the same way as a
derailed CEO having a Temper Tantrum, resorting to outbursts and even violence.
It is puzzling to see a <i>Child-Adult Act out, so most rationalize it as a quirk. </i>People who have witnessed this type
of behavior up close, are perplexed because the person who appears confident
and secure, can suddenly revert to childish bullying behavior. The two behaviors do not belong together, but because people do not understand the behavior, they excuse it as s fluke.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">“Sometimes he acts like a little boy
(or girl),” it is often remarked about the Narcissist after a victim witnessed them in a full display of <i>Rage. Anger, Crying, Threats,</i> <i>Breaking Things, Name Calling and Blaming </i>others,
are <i>immature behaviors</i> that are common with <i>children, </i>but inexplicably are the same behaviors seen in narcissists on an extreme scale.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The <i>trigger</i> that precedes these
displays of intemperance and abuse, is usually a feeling of ‘l<i>osing control’</i> of
losing <i>power.</i> <b>Power and Control </b>is the glue that holds the typical narcissist
together like a broken and fragmented vase superglued. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;"><b><i>DANGEROUS</i></b><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The more power a controlling
narcissist commands, the more <i>damage </i>they can wreak upon victims. In the case of
a partnership of two, only one victim exists, however, if the narcissist and
his partner have a large family of children, the narcissistic has a small
kingdom and can harm all his subjects. The fit of abuse is harmful to anyone near
a narcissistic person, the closer the relationship, the greater the harm. In the case of rulers, and persons with power over large numbers, the damage can be <i>catastrophic.</i><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><b><i>VICTIMS</i></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The predatory narcissist uses bait to
attract victims and emotional ‘sugar’ to keep them via ‘Love Bombing’ and
grandiose Future Promising. Lying and discrediting the victims is part of the brainwashing
scheme that is often undetected by those beguiled by the sugar coating. In the
case of the Super Narcissist whose Victims are companies and the citizens of
government, the same methods are used on a grand scale. The ‘Us’ v ‘Them’
method of isolating otherwise reasonable people from their common sense, works
of those suffering from displacement, marginalization, and fear of being left
behind. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Recruitment <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The Super Narcissist wants to be
worshipped like a god, to be obeyed without question, to have total control. It
is the ultimate power ‘high’ for a self-absorbed egomaniac. The aging Malignant
Ego desires this like Smeagol desires ‘The Precious’ in Lord of the Rings-so once
in power, they seek MORE power, more followers.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">A Cult is a group of people who
irrationally and unconditionally follow an ideology or a person, a Cult Leader.
The abandonment of reason is replaced by a cult-based belief system that
members defend AGAINST all reason. The Brainwashing in complete when members
reach this point of emotionalism. The radicalization of a person occurs when
those beliefs are dangerously extreme.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The first step for the Cult leader is
to stand in the public square and attract the followers to himself by appealing
to THEIR egos and their ISSUES, their hurts, and fears. In the cyber age,
social media is the easiest method for a potential leader to gather his crow. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The Cult Leader seeks the lost and angry
souls to lead, those who have no root within themselves, no established sense
of self, or keen critical thinking skills. The weakest members of society are
picked just like a predator picks prey.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">It is the same methods used by Gang
Leaders to claim the loyalty of gang member who are initiated in by oaths of loyalty.
It is the brainwashing of The Masses, gained by Cult Leaders through the ages,
by promising ‘a place to belong’ in a world in which they feel rejected.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">The Grandiose Malignant Narcissistic
Leader knows his victims and attracts them like magnet attracts metal. Once a
substantial portion of followers are bound by the silent oath, they follow
blindly without reason. It is at this dangerous juncture in which the followers
of cult leaders commit crimes in the name of their ‘Leader.’ Once the Cult
following is seduced, they are bound and committed to a cause that that they
believe is in their own best interests; unable to see the cause is the selfish
goal of a deranged fake persona.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Never Forget HOW we got to January 6<sup>th</sup>,
2021. The Grandiose Malignant Narcissist is a Dangerous Leader<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Macro-System Narcissist<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Ego Driven Power addicts seek the
greatest power achievable, so if they are talented, intelligent, or amply
supported financially, they often secure and amass large sums of money, and positions
of authority in which they control the lives of thousand of people. In rare
cases, Malignant Narcissists gain control of Governments, creating chaos on
large scale. There has been a lengthy line of evil rulers in the recent past,
as well as current ones whose quest for power has created mayhem and misery for
the masses.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Today in Real Time<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">There are individual narcissistic
power mongers who seek to destroy American Democracy via ruthless power
grabbing at all costs; and they display the same behaviors on a large scale as
abusive narcissists within a small family. The same dynamic exists among the
micro-narcissist and the macro-narcissist-they want to supply their Egos with a
never-ending steam of Power to compensate for the inner disquiet within themselves.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 0.5in; text-indent: -0.5in;"><span style="line-height: 107%;">Micro or Macro, Big or Small, All
Malignant Narcissists are Destructive.<o:p style="font-size: 20pt;"></o:p></span></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-36236192655838603542022-09-22T10:31:00.002-07:002022-09-22T10:31:54.969-07:00Toxic Patriarchy Murdered Mahsa Amini <p> <i><b>Do Women Matter as Much as Men? Women only had the Vote in America in the 1920's, and gained only a few rights, until the 1970's, even in America the Home of the Free. So, how much worse is it for women in countries such as Iran in 2022?</b></i></p><p><i></i></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdZPYUptlWbXScmaZcnlpSspXFmI31vyNaSKhxldJ12z3fcKMd9kOegevXJZX_XwEU82opyjk_gHD3bWAyHZW8QfN1n7c-JNPxtixf0d9XWdd8blHhbPSQnMDzEaP0pNKwhbUi2ttiWNunHJJSzMLxBKNm_hTNHn4QiFqlKLO8xy3712OmBPyKmRYTnw/s1200/MEjuly21%20copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1200" height="131" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdZPYUptlWbXScmaZcnlpSspXFmI31vyNaSKhxldJ12z3fcKMd9kOegevXJZX_XwEU82opyjk_gHD3bWAyHZW8QfN1n7c-JNPxtixf0d9XWdd8blHhbPSQnMDzEaP0pNKwhbUi2ttiWNunHJJSzMLxBKNm_hTNHn4QiFqlKLO8xy3712OmBPyKmRYTnw/w134-h131/MEjuly21%20copy.jpg" width="134" /></a></i></div><i><br /><b>Sara Niles Author Memoirist</b></i><p></p><p>A beautiful young<i> Iranian woman </i>was on a trip to visit family when the <i><b>Morality Police</b></i> arrested her and beat her to death for the 'crime' of not properly 'covering her head' via the <i>hijab. </i>The Iranian customs are built upon a patriarchal system in which women were expected to wear hijabs and other customary dress that usually covered women's bodies and heads. The women are subject to male dominated control in all aspects of life, but in <i>2005,</i> the breadth of control extended to the incorporation of the '<i>Guidance Patrol</i>' which is comprised of a van load of male police officers and a female fully dressed in traditional garb whose job is to arrest women if too much of her head and hair were visible to the public. The Morality Police were anything BUT moral, to have the audacity to punish women for exercising freedom of style, not modesty, merely style. The laws that justified such an atrocious and violent act was based upon Toxic Power and Control that boils down to abusive behavior by a Culture and its Government established by Males: The Toxic Patriarchy. The Control of Women had reached a new low.</p><p><b><i>Toxic Control</i></b> in any arena begins in <i>increments</i>, first it is a <i>suggestion</i>, eventually it becomes <i><b>law, </b></i>and once there is a law there is legal justification for punishment for the '<i>crime'</i> of walking free in the streets with your hair blowing in the wind; a pleasure few Iranian women could enjoy. The Sharia Laws and related religiously based idioms were behind the idea that men should dominate women. Originally, patriarchs were male<i> Protectors of the Family,</i> eventually the power tainted the perception of male power and it became <i><b>Toxic Control,</b></i> which reduced women to the status of being victimized by Toxic Patriarchy. The idea of the 'Good Father' was now a Tyranny that targeted women.</p><p><i>In 2022, on September 16, </i>the toxic patriarchal power exerted by the Moral Police created what was called the Iranian '<i>George Floyd event'</i> when they murdered <b><i>Mahsa Amini,</i></b> creating a revolutionary protest in which <i><b>both men and women cut their hair, and the women publicly burned their hijabs</b></i>. The act of riot and discord was a loud scream against the morality laws and practices that ended in the deaths of women, girls and men, who dared to challenge the 'morality' laws of a Toxic Patriarchy, which had transformed from protectors to tormentors. Women and girls are being treated as less than animals by their own government as they sent out the tanks and big guns, hordes of police, to reign in the peaceful protesters. Millions took to social media and the internet to publicize what was happening to them, so the government threatened to shut down their internet, so their only portal to the outside world would be closed.</p><p>Women and Men are pleading <i><b>"PLEASE Help Us-they are killing us,</b></i> <i>shooting us down in the street.</i>. and they are going to shut our internet off", some begging for the United Nations to intervene in their behalf. The killing of Mahsa Amini had created an Iranian Crisis, as revolution grows. The discontent of the masses is growing, because tyrannized people will not stop until they are free.</p><p><i><b>Women of the World are Humans i</b></i>n every nation, but many nations employ religiously backed customs that are detrimental and demoralizing to women who are treated as though they are dependent children instead of adults with human rights. In 1995, Hilary Rodham Clinton addressed the United Nation's Conference on Women's Rights in Beijing, China, when she stated what has now become internationally famous:</p><p><span style="font-size: large;"><i>"Women's Rights are Human Rights",</i></span> a phrase coined first by Women's Advocates a decade earlier and made famous by Clinton. It is a truth that has been erased by the treatment of women as less than human. Women ARE human beings with as much right to fair treatment as any man.</p><p>WE are ALL of One Kind-Humankind, or as Daniel De Foe's Moll Flanders said:</p><p>"We are all of one being-humankind", WE matter, no matter what gender we are, we are all human.</p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-21512960595942332522022-08-14T19:29:00.003-07:002022-08-14T19:31:42.092-07:00The Turning of the Tide<p> <i>The Family System is undergoing a tumultuous domino effect styled set of changes t</i>hat is eroding its foundations. It is a matter of simple math: the more dysfunctional families become overall, the more generational dysfunction occurs, and the process speeds up one generation at a time. It is like a Family System's decline is similar to global warming and climate change. The more the ice caps melt, the faster global warming proceeds; in a family, the more the foundations erode, the faster the decline. It is in effect the decline of American Civilization reminiscent of Rome as a World Power whose moral decline in favor of independent greed and selfishness, created division instead of unity, which eventually weakened the entire nation as a whole. Once the foundational strength of Rome was weakened, outside factors overcame it as a world power.</p><p>The '<i>Strength of the Wolf is the Pack-and the Strength of the Pack is the Wolf</i>' Kipling said in the Jungle Book; which is true in human terms. A Nation is merely large numbers of people unified by a common cause under a single rulership. The Nation is like 'The Pack' and individuals are like 'The Wolf' that together makes up s strong, united pack we call a Nation. American families are increasingly being weakened by single individuals whose narcissistic greed for Power within the family leads to betrayal and abuse. The family is weakened as more children are growing up damaged from living in a state of domestic trauma akin to a form of psychological warfare. These broken children grow up and parent children within new families in the same brokenness that they experienced. Once The Mold is broken the form with be broken in the same places; therefore we, as a society and a nation have a major crisis developing right under our noses.</p><p><span style="font-size: medium;"><b>Wake Up Call</b></span></p><p>The most extreme forms of trauma for a child is to suffer the loss of a family member to violent homicide; however even that reaches the limits of human endurance when children WITNESS the murder of one parent by the other in such a heinous act of brutality and betrayal that the average person would never fully recover from it. It would be hoped that such extreme acts of domestic violence within families is rare; but it is not. Family murders by men and even women, results in a Father or Mother killing the entire family, infants and young children included, followed by the cowardly way of exempting oneself from societal consequences-they commit suicide in over half the cases.</p><p>Four of more Domestic Violence Homicides are committed in America every day, one male victim for each three female victims. This is the lowest statistical estimate; it is more likely there are twice as many, considering all forms of partner, family related homicides fall into the category of domestic violence homicides. Sons kill 60 year-old mothers and fathers, daughters kill parents and parents kill their own children in alarmingly high numbers. Its a silent war going on right under our noses, and the collateral damage is coming back to haunt us.</p><p>The dysfunctional family is where we are bred and trained to become dysfunctional adults in dysfunctional societies and governments. It is apparent that hundreds of millions of people are affected by a lack of moral compass, a lack of positive regard for the rights of others, and decreasing love of self, and of their fellow man. The 'ice caps' of the family systems are melting and we are seeing the impact.</p><p><i><b>Sara Niles</b></i></p><p><b><span style="font-size: large;">The Narcissistic Family is on the increase:</span></b><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/u6NQJWsv8Is" width="320" youtube-src-id="u6NQJWsv8Is"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-48573565394226151292022-08-14T16:06:00.003-07:002022-08-14T16:09:22.497-07:00WHEN There is a NARCISSIST in the FAMILY<p style="text-align: left;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">SARA NILES</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><b>Narcissistic Mother</b><div><b>Father</b></div><div><b>Siblings</b></div><div><b>Partner </b></div><div><b>Impact on Children <br /></b><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/5z9qlc1skS8" width="320" youtube-src-id="5z9qlc1skS8"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/MMDIdzZTI84" width="320" youtube-src-id="MMDIdzZTI84"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><ol><li><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/3ZhGQJg5bgI" width="320" youtube-src-id="3ZhGQJg5bgI"></iframe></li></ol></div><br /> <p></p></div>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-88796344859560216052022-06-24T14:03:00.001-07:002022-06-24T14:03:20.004-07:00TOXIC PATRIARCHY and Roe V Wade 2022<p><br /> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSSbOMh9MDELMQvBs54NUpn4ynrHVuY30Nc5MvJdKEaRUXHEJWldrgtOvpwxMYtdfXP9Hk66Y0AT0ljVoimettX2l29jAs3u3fqwjO3YFwo-b2Mf317DFJzjJ3AO-Z8SIMZhzk52QOIz_ONtH2MjUKJeBCuR0IsCadoIZIbu2ryBTT3ROzrUf4mo94YQ/s1500/PintertsBANNER.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1000" data-original-width="1500" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSSbOMh9MDELMQvBs54NUpn4ynrHVuY30Nc5MvJdKEaRUXHEJWldrgtOvpwxMYtdfXP9Hk66Y0AT0ljVoimettX2l29jAs3u3fqwjO3YFwo-b2Mf317DFJzjJ3AO-Z8SIMZhzk52QOIz_ONtH2MjUKJeBCuR0IsCadoIZIbu2ryBTT3ROzrUf4mo94YQ/w340-h213/PintertsBANNER.jpg" width="340" /></a></div><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Toxic Patriarchy<o:p></o:p></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Cultures</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"> begin with families
as individuals join forces with nuclear families that expand into the larger
communities. Bronfenbrenner proposed that we are all affected by the small
influences as well as the great, the microcosms of family to the large aggregate
‘community’ we call government. In America, The original Melting Pot of a conglomeration
of cultures from around the world, Patriarchal control was part of the settler’s
original structure. The Good Father, the Leader of a Family was the Head of the
family-the father. The word Patriarch means ‘Father,’ so it makes sense that
the family systems inculcated into the first ‘tribes’ established in The New
World were patriarchal in nature, from England to the European influences, and
all the smaller influxes in between, revered The Father as the Leader, both
literally and symbolically.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Patriarchy </span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">was
welcomed in an untamed new world in which bears had to be fought, and the wild
land tamed. Family structures were tight like that of a wolf pack, with
everyone staying close together for safety’s sake. Marriages usually lasted for
a lifetime and children remained on ‘the farm’ because there was not much else
to do-but farm and hunt on the abundant land. Women welcomed the patriarchal
presence as a safeguard, and the idea of Women’s Rights was a far fetched as
going to the moon at that time. Science was an infant, there were no modern
conveniences and life was all about staying home and working the land, because the
land supplied everything needed at that time. Patriarchy was not challenged,
and women and children had few ‘rights. Women had twelve or more children to work
the farm; and neighbors helped each other. It was a different world then.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Fast Forward two hundred plus years and going to the
moon had been accomplished, farm life was for professional farmers who were
capable of harvesting thousands of acres with a single machine. Women did not
stay home, in fact, no one was at home. The children were in school, men and women
at work, and grandparents were sometimes a thousand miles away. Farm Life as it
once was no longer existed. The metropolitan cities contained the masses and
women had become a huge part of the workforce; but that did not happen overnight
or come easily.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">The patriarchal system was pleasing to males, because
they had all the rights and all the power, especially White Males with Privilege.
The Patriarchs Ruled like Kings, setting the laws and the limits imposed on everyone
else who was not Them: White Privileged Males. The rights of the many was sacrificed
through legislation which was controlled by the Privileged Few. The Few
controlled the Rights of the Many, which meant the multitude of Americans had few
rights; sometimes NO rights, as in the case of Slaves and Natives, The system
that was pleasing to the Privileged Few wreaked a savage toll on the many and
they did what the oppressed multitude always does-rebelled.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">From the original Boston Tea Party to the Equal Rights
Movements and the <i>Civil Rights Movement</i>, they rebelled. The rebellion
erupted in violence in every case because the Kings of the Mountain did not
want to concede one tiny iota of power, so it had to be taken by force; by
protests, and even riots which is what people do when they are repeatedly
unheard. From the 1900’s to the 2000’s The People fought for Black Rights, Civil
Rights, Women’s Rights, ‘Gay’ Rights, and Religious Rights, all held tightly
under the control of the established ‘Patriarchy’ otherwise known as governmental
Legislators. The Law was the Gate that either allowed or prevented Freedoms for
the many, and The Law was controlled by the ‘Patriarchs’ whose appetite for Power
had grown as strong as their greed for money.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Regardless of the resistance by Toxic Patriarchy, the
Masses won out: in <b>1920 Women</b> were finally given the right to vote, but
not before men beat their own White Women bloody on the public streets for even
‘asking’ for the vote. Black people were not allowed any real freedoms even
after they were legally incorporated into Law, during the same period as the Suffragette
Movement. Right were being held in lockdown by the ruling few.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>IN the early
1900’s all Black people, both males and females did not even have the right to
exist as equals with White People, much less vote without being assaulted, ran
out of town or hung, ‘unofficially’ by lawyers and judges hiding behind white
sheets. It was as late as 1964 when Fannie Lou Hamer gave her earth-shaking
speech about rights and freedom that sill echoes today; but only thirty-five years
earlier Black people were being lynched all over the country for demanding
Rights. It was the same time White women were defying Patriarchal Rule by
demanding the Vote. The spirit of rebellion was strong with Black people who also
rose up and began to fight back. The history books had hidden much of the racial
and social drama from that era, but the Truth Always rises to the top.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">The 1960’s was one of the bloodiest times
since the Civil War</span></i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">, and the entire decade was about fighting
for freedom for tyranny and suppression by, guess WHO-White Males in Power,
Toxic Patriarchy. Eventually the voters decided to vote in leaders whose eyes
were less on their pocketbook and more on the scales of justice; but the pendulum
swung backwards when the Republican Tea Party Movement took over in favor of
two extreme views: Pro Toxic Patriarchy and Pro Right-Wing Extremism; then
along came a spider Called Trump and the Rest went downhill from there. Trump,
who was the epitome of White Male Privilege and Toxic Patriarchy, emboldened
the extremists, polarizing the Toxic Atmosphere in the United States as ‘Us’
against ‘Them,’ which was the perfect smoke screen for the intensive damage he
wreaked. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">The Supreme Court of the United States hold the power
to unravel unjust laws in favor of justice, or to do the opposite. Trump
appointed radical judges whose focus was skewed, and now we have a Landmark Law
that was ‘established Law’ that each judge vowed not to touch-but they lied.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Roe V Wade was established in 1973 ending the long history
of coat hanger deaths and throwaway children, giving women the right to control
what happens inside their own bodies. It was a major win for Women’s Rights and
a huge know against Toxic Patriarchy.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><b><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Toxic Patriarchy came back with a vengeance:
Roe V Wade was struck town by the SCOTUS, overturned TODAY June 24, 2022. Toxic
Fail.<o:p></o:p></span></i></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-78258212581007104322022-06-22T20:24:00.002-07:002022-06-22T20:24:29.668-07:00TOXIC POWER<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='648' height='453' src='https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dyQnKMYZbTcX-dmrfAwkOP8vODv79DLT00ur5Bxq30Nqu_ODv_JYBXRq3sTxSVUuElncL2Vh0-C2b4GBhk4VA' class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe></span></div><br /> <p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-69053567164954103442022-06-20T18:58:00.005-07:002022-06-22T20:31:47.525-07:00Toxic and Lethal: Malignant Narcissism with Dark Triad Traits<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFK_Vnp2unjmetLWdFdk4CadYIA2o1ATCjR9TASE0qnHvYCJymqDJhDY0KzEXAB0T4cexoM_9qvwae5dM2ldKcjffN2IBxQgZETclk0dTk9ltG7M4aCAADBh_h_IOPcKi7uq6X7WeLW9BHvtI3GeYyWqnjVeoZwnfcFMQ6HCAEdmU9mzFBRGZ0GB52bw/s300/16SaraNileLogored.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="300" height="122" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFK_Vnp2unjmetLWdFdk4CadYIA2o1ATCjR9TASE0qnHvYCJymqDJhDY0KzEXAB0T4cexoM_9qvwae5dM2ldKcjffN2IBxQgZETclk0dTk9ltG7M4aCAADBh_h_IOPcKi7uq6X7WeLW9BHvtI3GeYyWqnjVeoZwnfcFMQ6HCAEdmU9mzFBRGZ0GB52bw/w135-h122/16SaraNileLogored.jpg" width="135" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p>Three to Four DV Homicides PER day in the United States reveals there is a dangerous subgroup of Abusers: Who are they?</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="331" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/gOdPkCLiRyA" width="374" youtube-src-id="gOdPkCLiRyA"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><p><br /></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-28277196879190018782022-06-06T10:37:00.003-07:002022-06-06T10:37:24.879-07:00What is a NARCISSIST? <p><b><span style="color: #990000; font-size: large;"> </span></b></p><p><b></b></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><b><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN52z3gtu2e2zY5PRSpM_fzx0pDtFBGXYIknbqY4u9DU3rNxcs8tkp0BB6x7vTwGNQf_RFTZAMejz3wZYfolUIanMdhdc1GiIcfG6_OVVZt8cohBd7yf6dqThDVTPUfJf5nff3p6fh9kxR1Vz5mesnd2As2UUXzqKJx-zQTdLfi60qa4SaRnfOORXhdA/s900/TinyDYSimage.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="802" data-original-width="900" height="156" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiN52z3gtu2e2zY5PRSpM_fzx0pDtFBGXYIknbqY4u9DU3rNxcs8tkp0BB6x7vTwGNQf_RFTZAMejz3wZYfolUIanMdhdc1GiIcfG6_OVVZt8cohBd7yf6dqThDVTPUfJf5nff3p6fh9kxR1Vz5mesnd2As2UUXzqKJx-zQTdLfi60qa4SaRnfOORXhdA/w191-h156/TinyDYSimage.jpg" width="191" /></a><span style="color: #990000; font-size: x-large;">SARA NILES</span><span><a name='more'></a></span></b></div><b><br /><span style="color: #990000; font-size: large;"><br /></span></b><p></p><p><b><span style="color: #990000; font-size: large;">Defining The NARCISSIST:</span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">The Term <i>"Narcissist"</i> is not new, nor is the
Personality 'Disorder'-Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which was added to the Third version of the Psychology
'Bible' called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM III) in 1980, forty-two years ago...however, the behavior of narcissistic
people is simply ABUSER behaviors .<i>Domestic Violence, Domestic Abuse in ALL of
its forms,</i> is simply different iterations of narcissism--<b><i>Abusers ARE
Narcissists.</i></b>..and Abuse behavior-the SAME behavior abuse victims have tried to
explain to the 'Non Believers' for a hundred years-<i>IS Narcissistic Behavior</i>-both
Abuse <i>dynamics </i>and narcissistic behavioral <i>dynamics </i>are the same.
The techniques of blaming the victim, gaslighting, discounting, invalidation, humiliation,
intimidation, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, financial abuse, sexual
abuse, spiritual abuse, mental abuse, AND physical Abuse, are ALL trademarks of
Power and Control dynamics made famous by the Power and Control Wheel of The
Duluth Minnesota Domestic Violence Project in 1984, fours years after NPD was
admitted into the DSM III. Narcissism and Domestic Violence were treated as TWO
separate typologies, although they are related in both origin and actualized
behaviors. Abusers are both Covert and Overt, Extreme, and sublimated;
Narcissists are both Covert and Overt, Extreme, and Sublimated, and both use
the exact same tactics. Select Abusers are barely detectable, others are obvious
and loud; a smaller percentage of Abusers are dangerous, capable of THE most
extreme violence-<i>Family</i> <i>Annihilation</i>, while others never resort to physical
violence. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">The common denominator when dealing with abusive behaviors is
the core of the Narcissistic person is geared towards selfishness and varying
degrees of Power and Control. The development of a Narcissistic Ego begins within
the Narcissist’s own childhood when they fail to learn to Trust and Attach to significant
caregivers. The first building block of the child’s personality was corrupted
and the ‘Ego’ itself was corrupted as a result; so instead of having healthy
attachments and Love, the child learns to Pretend to have attachment, this is
The Famous ‘Mask’ in its earliest form. A charming and deceitful child, or even
a well-behaved quiet child, can hide their True Selves from others. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">A Child is NOT a Narcissist, because they have not had time to complete full-stage development as such; but a child can become Abusive.
The personality is not fully formed until the late teens and early twenties;
the conscience begins to change from Kohlberg’s stages of the perception of
Right and Wrong according to the parents, To an Internalized and <i>Autonomous</i>
version of Right and Wrong ‘<i>According to ME</i>,’ around the age of twelve; a process
that continues until the child reaches adulthood. An emotionally healthy child
who has learned to attach and love and has developed <i>Empathy</i> for animals, for humans, and a respect for Life, also
develops a <i>Healthy Ego, as well as a complementary Healthy Super Ego </i>which serves to moderate their
sense of Justice. A child whose developmental stages are corrupted, does not develop
a healthy Ego, Super Ego, or a properly subjugated ID; therefore neither do they have genuine concern for the Rights and Welfare of
Others. Instead of viewing others though the lens of a healthy self identity, they develop a False Self coupled with a keen sense of Entitlement in which they feel
The World Owes them. This is the Grandiosity in its early stages, a sense of entitlement and superiority over others.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><i>The Narcissist is Born </i>when the self-entitled Adult owns the corrupted beliefs
and attitudes they have fostered since their childhood; although they <i>Know </i>what
is right and wrong, <i>according</i> <i>to Society.</i> The word 'deviance' means to deviate from the standard Normal; a narcissist chooses to deviate from societal standards of normal attachment and respect for others; which makes Narcissism itself a Deviant Behavior.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">Once the adult narcissist chooses to become deviant, The Narcissist busies themselves with
keeping a Fake Persona, a False Representation of themselves before the world. They Know what the world expects and accepts, that is why they pretend to conform. The Mask becomes part of their subterfuge, and over time they obtain toxic reinforcement
and reward because of being able to ‘Fool’ others. The sense of Dark Power adds
to their deviance, and what conscience they may have developed, begins to die. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">The <i>Inner Conflict</i> of a young adult who may be fighting against
becoming sociopathic, is what keeps them Open To Change; it is not too late for
them if the Internal Conflict is active. The weak conscience can either be strengthened
or destroyed, and sadly, many of those who Choose to Abuse, decide to either
weaken or destroy their conscience in favor of the God Power, the unmitigated power
to behave as they choose regardless of how their behavior impacts others. The Malignant
Narcissist is born when the internal Conflict between Good and Evil, is decided
in favor of Evil; and the Malignant Narcissist learns to speak charming lies
and perform as saints a carefully plotted Act to deceive and control. The
Malignant Narcissist becomes ‘The Nicest Person that you will ever meet,’
because it is a perfectly delivered Act.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><i>Counseling Narcissists and Victims is a Normal-Versus-Deviance
Approach that does not fit standard counseling approaches.</i><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">Regular psychological techniques are <i>not </i>geared toward
dealing with Domestic Violence Dynamics-Abuse dynamics. Counselors are geared
towards <i>normal interactions between honest people, </i>in which the parties use Honesty,
Effective Communication, and Basic Listening Skills, to solve problems between
two or more parties. The Narcissistic-Abuse Dynamic is built upon the Mind-Bending
Behavior, Beliefs, and Attitudes, used by <i>Cult Leaders.</i> The Victim, when under
the ‘Spell’ of the ‘Narcissist-Abuser,’ is in a state of Denial, an altered
reality; otherwise known as being ‘Brainwashed,’ which results from an endless
barrage of Pseudo-Truth and Outright Lies; all delivered under Threat and
Pressure. Entire Families are subjected to this altered reality, in which the primary
Scapegoat is the only one who sees through the subterfuge. The perception of
Truth has been changed from what is True, to the Lies of the Manipulative
Abusers. The Victims are conditioned by a dual system of Reward and Punishment delivered
incrementally by the primary Abuser-Narcissist, using Love Bombing as a Reward
tactic. Gradual Conditioning within a Toxic Climate recreated the Boiled Frog
analogy, as Victims adjust in small degrees that are barely noticeable, at
first. The Intensity of the emotional interactions within an
abusive-narcissistic household, cements the perceptions of the victims. The Love
Bombing is like an addictive drug to Victims who are so relieved to be in the
Abuser’s Good Favor again-they become vulnerable to developing a version of Graham-Stockholm
Syndrome. The Abuser becomes their Hero, who they initially both ardently
defend and make excuses for, using <i>Rationalization, Minimalization</i>, and the old
standby-<i>Denial. </i><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><i><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">WHY</span></i><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">
are victims susceptible to such abuse and tyranny, and why do they stay in
abusive relationships for years?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The Truth is both
Malignant and ‘Regular’ Narcissists are not always punitive and aggressive;
they are ‘FUN’ to be around much of the time. When the Narcissist is Happy-EVERYBODY
is happy-but when the Narcissist is miserable-Everyone pays. The Narcissistic Abuser
has the Ego of a Child and is dominated by ID-driven Emotions. The Narcissistic
person has an empty Inner Core, an underdeveloped, or Nonexistent Conscience,
but the entitlement of a spoiled child-they WANT what they WANT when they want
it. Their sense of justice in the Universe gears around them-they are The
Center, the sun, and their victims orbit them like lesser moons and planets.
Narcissistic Abuse occurs in families with Mothers, Fathers, Siblings, and
extended family taking the roles of both victims and abusers; however, Partners
are Chosen Relationships, not blood relationships. It is within the Intimate
Partner Relationship that the most severe forms of abuse and violence fosters. It
is also within partner-driven relationships Victims become the ‘Boiling Frog’
that endures abuse until the boiling point becomes too much to bear. The Victims
reach a tipping point in which the amount of pain in the relationship Is
GREATER than the pseudo pleasure of the Love Bombing and the intoxicating ‘Highs’
brought on by self-induced delusion.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><b><span style="color: #990000;">Does The Narcissistic Abuser KNOW they are harming others?</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">Absolutely. It is part of the Toxic Conditioning process, as
they Bully You Down to a controllable level; followed by using the victims as
scapegoats and ego supply; THEY get their ‘HIGHS’ from inducing your ‘LOWS”
just like a schoolyard Bully. Chronic Abusers know when to wear The Mask and
exactly what behaviors are acceptable in public, or which behaviors to exhibit
before certain people. The chameleon is a toxic shapeshifter, whose behavior
will adapt to each circumstance. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">The Narcissistic person Knows Right from Wrong-they simply do
not care about anything other than meeting their own needs, and gaining ‘Narcissistic
Supply,’ whether that is admiration from a crowd, or obedience from the few. If
the Victims begin to develop a sense of Pride in themselves or show Confidence
and Autonomy-it signals Warfare for the Narcissist who must regain their power and
control. It is during these stages of the Victim-Abuser relationship that the
Abuser shows their worst behaviors in a frantic attempt to subvert the humiliation
of Defeat. The Dangerousness of the worst of the abusers is revealed when
Victims Leave with finality.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">Behavioral Health Professionals who are not trained in the
dynamics of Domestic Violence and Abuse dynamics are at a disadvantage when it
comes to the Victim-Abuser relationship. Traditional therapies do not work when
dealing with deviant behavioral dynamics. The normal range focus of Truth &
Honesty, Assertiveness, 'Standing Up to Them", Better 'Communication', and
COUPLES Therapy do NOT work within the Altered Dimension called an ‘Abusive Relationship.’
<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">The main reason counselors and therapists who have neither
appropriate training OR experience-do not 'Get It' about Narcissists-is because
they are applying <i>normal techniques</i> to an abnormal set of dynamics..
Narcissism is on a continuum from bad to worse-from those who only play subtle
mind games, but have a tad of empathy-to those who are like Serial Killers-who
are actors-Deadly and Dangerous actors wearing Masks-they are the ones who act
out "IF I can't have you-You won't LIVE"; so, imagine a Therapist
suggesting Couples Therapy in a Slave-Captive, Victim-Perpetrator Power
Dynamic?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;">I WAS a Domestic Violence Dynamics Trainer, but before that-I
was once <i>a Victim</i> of a potential Killer wearing the 'Mask' I spoke of, and
I was also a counselor-so I know exactly why there is an enormous difference
between counseling a Victim of abuse and Counseling THE Abuser-I have done
both. I got the disruptors for what was called BIP program-the 'Batterers'
Intervention Program" as it was called them-Court Mandated counseling for
52 Weeks....and Yes, most of them were just attending the sessions to stay out
of prison-they were not in it to heal (A few of the less serious abusers
were-very few)..A typical Malignant Narcissistic Abuser wore THE Mask to
counseling-if they could not manipulate you, they pretended to be the perfect
client; because MOST malignant abusers do not want to change Who They
ARE as personalities- which is controlling, manipulative, obsessive, possessive, deceitful people-they
<i>Like it</i> that way. The Toxic Behavior feeds their Toxic EGO-and their Id's
dominate; they are sociopaths and psychopaths.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">NOTE: </span>The Rare Few individuals who subvert narcissistic inclinations and behaviors are usually on the milder end of the behavioral spectrum and they have an active conscience.</span></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-45000874570718636002022-05-25T09:55:00.003-07:002022-05-25T09:55:51.270-07:00COWARDLY Mass Shooter Salvador Ramos: murdered innocent, helpless children and adults <p><span style="color: #990000; font-size: large;"><b> By SARA NILES</b></span></p><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0 0 0 40px; padding: 0px;"><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZwzjYWByRl6WSbSqGwBFO4bEWQSgMhG95jr6OXyEKhZkhdNpDuZWxVzKisTQe8huc2YVdURVVVab5ZQQG2ef1ADYwJiq0q_AMnw1nOlkJLFM3oFXSuDMdQvS2IhcO8EJMEDTn7GuF-yO-nS6H6DQcSzZlwTKiTuaCNyMoyZKlsAlUXVgwXa2IwBtolQ/s900/TinyDYSimage.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="802" data-original-width="900" height="178" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjZwzjYWByRl6WSbSqGwBFO4bEWQSgMhG95jr6OXyEKhZkhdNpDuZWxVzKisTQe8huc2YVdURVVVab5ZQQG2ef1ADYwJiq0q_AMnw1nOlkJLFM3oFXSuDMdQvS2IhcO8EJMEDTn7GuF-yO-nS6H6DQcSzZlwTKiTuaCNyMoyZKlsAlUXVgwXa2IwBtolQ/w177-h178/TinyDYSimage.jpg" width="177" /></a><span style="text-align: justify;">There are </span><b style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">ALWAYS
Red Flags</span></b><span style="text-align: justify;">: Distant, 'Strange', Isolated, History of being Bullied,
History of Bullying, Covert Mask hiding Aggressiveness, Poor Family
Relationships, Poor School Performance, Few Friends, A Tendency to Hoard Anger,
Attraction to Power symbols, Affiliation with Right Wing Violent Entities,
Angry Drawings and Communication, Sinister Threats, Social Media Presence
focuses on Self-Vindication, and Red Flag Behaviors noticed by School
Professionals or Work Mates.</span></div><p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><b><i>SOCIOPATHIC Salvador Ramos </i></b>showed
Red Flags Before Texas Mass School Shooting:<o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;">The news articles are proliferating, and the
details are coming out, such as Ramos was <i>bullied at school,</i> and
he was <i>also a bully</i> who carried boxing gloves around picking
fights. Ramos had a <i>poor relationship</i> <i>with his mother</i> and
often screamed disrespectful expletives at her when she pressured him for not
attending school, which often resulted in his escaping to his grandparents’
house, where his grandmother also yelled at him for refusing to attend school
which was the reason he would not graduate with his class.<o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;">Although Ramos seemed 'quiet' to some associates,
he was known to have a dark streak according to others, which is usually a sign
a person is hiding their true self, the preliminary behavior of ‘wearing a
mask' of normalcy on the surface while cultivating hatred internally. It is
impossible to read an individual's mind, but through patterns of behavior over
time, we can discern intentions, motivations, and beliefs. Ramos, according to
reports had disdain for females, as expressed through disrespectful remarks he
was known for. <o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #990000;">POWER</span></b><span style="color: #990000;">:</span> Every healthy individual required personal
power to be happy and stable; however, power is like pie, each person is
allotted a fair share of power. The boundary of respect for the rights of
others, defines the limits of personal power. In the case of bullied children,
and those who feel slighted in life, either because they have toxic
entitlement, or because they were unjustly treated, power becomes an allure. It
is 'The Thing' they need to feel whole, or it is what they are greedy for to
feel better than others, superior to others. Narcissistic people long for power
because they are empty inside, so there is never a level of power satiation for
them-never enough-because they are attempting to fix a wound by covering it up.<o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #660000;">RAGE: </span></b>Every
mass murderer has rage, but not the loud obvious type that screams they have a
problem-it is the hidden rage that is the most <i>dangerous, </i>the <i>Sneaky, </i>Cold,
Calculating, <i>COWARDLY RAGE</i> that devours them to the point they
act it out on innocent children. The epitome of Cowardice personified. The
entitled child, harbors resentment below the surface, and if it continues to
grow, it becomes a Dark Fantasy of Revenge that erupts in a violent assault
upon the innocent-JUST LIKE the horrific <b>Columbine School Shooting,</b> <b>The
Sandy Hook Shooting, the Marjorie Stoneman Douglas Shooting,</b> and Once
Again we see the ugliness of societal apathy-and <b><span style="color: red;">Republican Greed</span></b>-<o:p></o:p></p><p style="text-align: justify;">The <b>Robb School Shooting in Uvalde, TEXAS,
on May 24, 2022. </b>Twenty-two people dead.<o:p></o:p></p><p>
</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #cc0000;">The Legislative
Irony: Salvador Ramos BOUGHT two guns this month, although he is not old enough
to buy Liquor or Cigarettes.</span></b><o:p></o:p></p></blockquote><p><br /></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-86123548028830160022022-05-19T05:55:00.001-07:002022-05-19T05:55:55.373-07:00SARA NILES MEMOIRIST: I Saved My Own Life: TORN From the Inside Out<a href="https://saraniles-josephinethompson.blogspot.com/2022/05/i-saved-my-own-life-torn-from-inside-out.html?spref=bl">SARA NILES MEMOIRIST: I Saved My Own Life: TORN From the Inside Out</a>: The Beginning The room was small, the walls created a slight echo, or perhaps it was just my imagination. I had to go so far back into ...Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-69998335154095868342022-05-18T10:05:00.001-07:002022-05-18T10:05:14.689-07:00I Saved My Own Life: TORN From the Inside Out<p style="text-align: center;"> </p><p style="text-align: center;"><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"></i></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEij0t2LSTjodU-CnQNtoGEcwewx1b15h4tSKJpUgKix-TlxTgTLQ-kkWe7conrqAO3wtLmguGxOYP8F5KQqZeDRk0FJQAXxdfEvWa0l2nfj2I7n8SgA2ATBp_DK0QXWffhEVBDoC8rdkVC0z7dMh9Ynd-5uKXbD5ii4iV68L1uL5XyxhFjEUsf2T9CTXQ/s1500/300ME.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1500" data-original-width="989" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEij0t2LSTjodU-CnQNtoGEcwewx1b15h4tSKJpUgKix-TlxTgTLQ-kkWe7conrqAO3wtLmguGxOYP8F5KQqZeDRk0FJQAXxdfEvWa0l2nfj2I7n8SgA2ATBp_DK0QXWffhEVBDoC8rdkVC0z7dMh9Ynd-5uKXbD5ii4iV68L1uL5XyxhFjEUsf2T9CTXQ/s320/300ME.jpg" width="211" /></a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFOWUjQdg0hSGVLvmyF2We_9zzjtTgGeFBrg_KqGwFN3u0XLhTKAN6nE4t_OS73ftMgmaIMGwXTJW05gsVJVSW3Bn_vWiffslyaj4lmlWQVWSuFQUuOVA_AdHE4yijw7GqAXeQMTkatVoPXvbCtf-m0PDjCACEEPhmiapGlbMEAs-B50DNVTeqv-k0w/s3150/411TORNblackCOV2022.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3150" data-original-width="2100" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFOWUjQdg0hSGVLvmyF2We_9zzjtTgGeFBrg_KqGwFN3u0XLhTKAN6nE4t_OS73ftMgmaIMGwXTJW05gsVJVSW3Bn_vWiffslyaj4lmlWQVWSuFQUuOVA_AdHE4yijw7GqAXeQMTkatVoPXvbCtf-m0PDjCACEEPhmiapGlbMEAs-B50DNVTeqv-k0w/s320/411TORNblackCOV2022.jpg" width="213" /></a></i></div><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"><br /></i></div><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"><br /><span style="font-family: "Vladimir Script"; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><br /></span></i><p></p><p style="text-align: center;"><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"><span style="font-family: "Vladimir Script"; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><br /></span></i></p><p style="text-align: center;"><i style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.2in;"><span style="font-family: "Vladimir Script"; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The Beginning</span></i></p>
<span style="font-family: "Brush Script MT"; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">The</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"> room was small, the walls created a slight
echo, or perhaps it was just my imagination. I had to go so far back into my
mind that the present environment closed in on me. Of the five people in the
room, Kathryn Shipp was the most imposing: she was 6 feet tall, stood military
straight with sharply cropped blue-black hair, and blue eyes that were intense.
She needed everything from me, she had to have the ‘feel’ of the whole story,
not just the facts, so she demanded more than just a story, and she wanted a
recreation of my life. Kathy Shipp was one of the best attorneys in the state
and her client was a domestic abuse victim who had snapped and killed her
abuser, so Kathy Shipp needed me to show her why a good little girl could empty
a gun on a man with his back turned. I knew why she did it, I knew what she
felt, and if it took revealing my soul to help, I would.</span><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet;"><br /></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet;">Torn From the Inside Out-A Memoir</span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet;"><br /></span></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: trebuchet;">Excerpted from Chapter One</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span></div><div><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .25in; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Living on the Flower
Bed of Eden</span></i><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">“You are living on the Flower Bed of Eden!”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Andrew Howard to Little Sara, age five<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Arkansas,
1962<o:p></o:p></span></i></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 6.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Thunder
rattled the windowpanes two stories high, and lightning split the sky; it was
as if the whole world was in turmoil that night. My nerves were keyed up as
tight as piano strings, and in a sudden moment of stillness and silence it felt
as though my heartbeat was amplified ten times over. He was over a hundred
pounds greater than I, nearly a foot taller, and I knew he could move his
muscled body into unbelievable sprints.
Rain started falling in torrents, while the storm raged outside. I was
not afraid of the storms of nature; it was the storm inside this night that I
knew I might not survive.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 6.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Anticipation
was so great that I wanted to scream at him to get it over with, and true to my
expectation he lunged for me, and my body did not disappoint me, I flew down
the stairs two at a time in my bare feet. He stalled for mere seconds to enjoy
his pronouncement of a death sentence upon me:<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"> “<i>I AM GOING TO KILL YOU-YOU GOOD FOR
NOTHING BITCH-STONE DEAD!”</i> He
screamed.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">It was
February 13, of the year 1987, the night that I disappeared into a February
rainstorm with five children and no place to go. I was twenty-nine years old. <o:p></o:p></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW2DSYcLMMVRe-ZkFzc-YGhAKXkfYWoRwyTb_9F2UyE0iHC9FVjHrgLWuw0vnV5vaCjWDPTx-AP-tmqnhMghiuTtVCmNYV8OPLbFGRayA59ngfOb4lLWoCrxa1bxnosSRceXnjpag-yeVhIG9CTLpHTfhpCIVr15IqE7hDHFD3jGQSqY7x07Mn15ENlQ/s220/TornCovBOX.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="220" data-original-width="220" height="220" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhW2DSYcLMMVRe-ZkFzc-YGhAKXkfYWoRwyTb_9F2UyE0iHC9FVjHrgLWuw0vnV5vaCjWDPTx-AP-tmqnhMghiuTtVCmNYV8OPLbFGRayA59ngfOb4lLWoCrxa1bxnosSRceXnjpag-yeVhIG9CTLpHTfhpCIVr15IqE7hDHFD3jGQSqY7x07Mn15ENlQ/s1600/TornCovBOX.jpg" width="220" /></a></div><br /><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple;"><br /></p><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"></span></div>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-82002188923650743022022-05-16T21:40:00.003-07:002022-05-16T21:49:55.361-07:00DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Are Women the only Victims of Domestic Violence and Abuse-are MALES Victims TOO?<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjltZkqCqjyAMaIfwKNAzoxUltCp30G434G0p4YLnnTArHHfEde4fLsHLzReH0vXCGoVreYHrC72r-sR0LYoi3mpfHCHyR0sTmAZnDoAJ0e79e2lcqSaCv7esir2pN88-0bmYmHatd34FIzA1f7JjqesZT8AS3onl8euUoJ7qSfBPfDnnNEQRwyXek_mA/s1964/cutoutCOVimageDYSxmasks.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1750" data-original-width="1964" height="228" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjltZkqCqjyAMaIfwKNAzoxUltCp30G434G0p4YLnnTArHHfEde4fLsHLzReH0vXCGoVreYHrC72r-sR0LYoi3mpfHCHyR0sTmAZnDoAJ0e79e2lcqSaCv7esir2pN88-0bmYmHatd34FIzA1f7JjqesZT8AS3onl8euUoJ7qSfBPfDnnNEQRwyXek_mA/w195-h228/cutoutCOVimageDYSxmasks.jpg" width="195" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The presence of violence
in the home is called ‘<b>Domestic Violence</b>’ or Domestic Abuse, according to <i>type
and severity.</i> The intolerable behavior that makes a home a toxic prison in
which children are forced to merely survive, ranges from subtle put-downs, name
calling, yelling, and screaming, intimidation by throwing and slamming objects,
to actual physical and sexual violence against the primary target, and the children
in the home. In the worst-case scenario <i>people die</i>. The most dangerous
abusers often destroy the family if the primary victim leaves in a final
violent tantrum that amounts to “IF I can’t have them” they will not be allowed
to live- in other words, not only will they not enjoy life after the Abuser,
the family members of the killer, will not have a life to enjoy. These types of
domestic violence killers are called <i>Family Annihilators</i>, and they are
the most lethal among domestic violence abusers. The ending of a relationship
for them is a major injury to their fragile ego, and it designates Loss: Loss
of Power, Loss of Pride, and it is the ultimate Humiliation, an ego earthquake that
cracks their sense of identity. To a Malignant Narcissist with Dark Triad
Traits, this triggers a furious attempt to reclaim their power and regain their
property, so they launch an <i>All-or-Nothing</i> assault to claim them to
themselves either <i>Dead or Alive.<o:p></o:p></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><i><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In the moment in which
the Abuser decides to commit homicide, all the childhood issues are summoned:
the fractured childhood, the suppressed rage, the invalidation, childhood
humiliation, and the entitlement garnered later because they have become injustice
collectors, grievance hoarders. The combination of all the pent up hostilities
become the psychological dynamite that fuels one last effort to ‘Win’, to ‘Show
Them’, and to ‘Avenge’ themselves of their demons. It is emotional dynamite,
and the fuse is set (Women who kill their partners are governed by the same toxic
dynamics).</span></i><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Women are usually the
primary targets of dangerous abusers, but not always. It has been commonly
overlooked by society that male child who grew up in violence often either identify
with the abuser and become abusive later as adults, or they become victims as adults,
because they identified with the victimized mother. Society has overlooked the
fact that the same poison cauldron of violence and abuse that shaped most <i>adult
male victimizers</i>, also shaped female children who were exposed to violence during
childhood. While not all children model the negative behaviors learned while
exposed to toxic environments, most do so in disturbing numbers since about half
of the children of abusive homes are conditioned to become the hated bully they
also idealized.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Both male and female children
who identify with abusive parents, mimic the same behaviors in their adulthood;
albeit in different ways. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People are
naturally inclined to use the skills and abilities they possess to achieve
their goals. Males are usually stronger than females and are conditioned by
society to use that strength to their advantage. If an abused male child grows
up to become a violent abuser, he uses his <i>greater physical strength</i> to
dominate future relationships, including the children within the home. Females
who adopt violent bully mentalities, use <i>savage verbal and</i> <i>emotional</i>
tools to abuse and control, making the home environment toxic. Fits of screaming,
name calling, and humiliation is used by both male and female abusers, as well
as making unfair comparisons, belittling, invalidation, gaslighting and manipulation,
and what is called ‘Love Bombing’ used as a smoke screen to distract from the negative
behavior of the perpetrators. Both male and female abusers create a ‘walking on
eggshells’ atmosphere in which children are anxious and fearful and suppress their
emotions to stay safe from emotional assault. In addition to the immediate
effects of abuse, the long-term damage to the next generation is perpetrated by
both male and female abusers, as they destroy children’s ability to trust and
develop healthy self-esteem<i>. Both males and females use the same domestic
violence tactics as they angrily project their pain and insecurities upon family
members while presenting a masked persona as their public face.<o:p></o:p></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The biggest different
between male and female abusive bullies, is the use of physical and sexual
violence. Women are less likely to cause substantial bodily harm to male
partners, or to perpetrate physical violence upon their children. Male violence
perpetrated upon female victims occurs at an alarming rate, affecting millions
of households each day, and responsible for emergency room visits, hospitalization
and loss workdays amounting to over five billion dollars annually, and rising.
The greatest cost to female victims of male to female violence is the loss of
life.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The most dangerous
time in a violent relationship is when the victim leaves for the final time. It
takes the average victim from 7-12 times before they leave a violent relationship
for good. The abusers know when the abuser is finished with them, and they have
lost all power over them, which is a humiliation and a trigger to possessive,
obsessive, and entitled abusers. The presence of a gun in the home increases the
likelihood the relationship will end in homicide. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Thousands of men, women
and children become victims of domestic homicide annually, and the majority of
the homicides occur either during the leaving process or shortly afterwards. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><b><i><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Male to Female DV
homicide versus Female to Male DV homicide: <o:p></o:p></span></i></b></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When Women are violent
and there is a <b>gun accessible</b>, <i>they are as lethal as men</i>. For
every four to five Intimate Partner Homicide in which the male is the
perpetrator, there is one case of female to male DV homicide.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Statistics:</span></b><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> The sources of the most reliable annual statistics
are gathered by federal agencies, such as the Center for Disease Control, The National
Crime Victims Center, The Federal Bureau of Investigations, the National Bar
Association, and multiple Domestic Violence Agencies, as well as federally
mandated Domestic Violence Fatality Review Boards from each state.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Statistics are
generated and reviewed for accuracy before being published.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Links to Statistical Sources are provided
below for your convenience. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYqI2hRxGV4xA7TJwvZ8-IFkPeEwIs28nOsIOseW_s7oLpQEmF9HO2ZKyjQhXA1j1BLLJPdQ0fcLTs-ZLPEBsUC9k29rx_1GBnG4wEK7xRMKkVku6aB0y6bBN_4sEX8i1Cc-iYWIT9Yvvzj_JLWm4RIGHWWSvgOSL7jGRbxsARK0DVlsz93VWnz0zSUg/s300/16SaraNileLogored.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="300" height="130" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhYqI2hRxGV4xA7TJwvZ8-IFkPeEwIs28nOsIOseW_s7oLpQEmF9HO2ZKyjQhXA1j1BLLJPdQ0fcLTs-ZLPEBsUC9k29rx_1GBnG4wEK7xRMKkVku6aB0y6bBN_4sEX8i1Cc-iYWIT9Yvvzj_JLWm4RIGHWWSvgOSL7jGRbxsARK0DVlsz93VWnz0zSUg/w143-h130/16SaraNileLogored.jpg" width="143" /></a></div><br /><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><br /></span><p></p>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt;">35% of female IPV survivors and more than 11% of
male IPV survivors experience some form of physical injury related to IPV. IPV
can also result in death. Data from U.S. crime reports suggest that about 1 in
5 homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner.</span><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/fastfact.html<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">What are the
statistics of domestic violence in America?<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;"><b><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">1 in 3 women and 1 in
4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner</span></b><span style="color: #202124; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">. This includes a range of behaviors (e.g.,
slapping, shoving, pushing) and in some cases might not be considered
"domestic violence." 1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured
by an intimate partner.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">NCADV<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">1 in 5 Women and 1 in 7
Men experience Serious Intimate Partner Violence in their lifetimes<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list .5in; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Over 43 million women and 38
million men have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate
partner in their lifetime.<o:p></o:p></span></li>
</ul>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Sexual abuse of Men<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><a href="https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/men-ipvsvandstalking.html" target="_blank">CDC Statistics: Male Victims</a><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><br /></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;">Call 1-800-799-SAFE National
Domestic Violence Hotline<o:p></o:p></span></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.comCXVW+F6 Asati, QC, Canada47.4436425 -74.0044375-29.555787443442519 145.3705625 90 66.6205625tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-81620835320687210602022-04-26T08:46:00.000-07:002022-04-26T08:46:01.475-07:00Trauma and Childhood <p> <a href="https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdVN4Hts/">https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdVN4Hts/</a></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-35836111437906416542022-04-23T09:23:00.003-07:002022-04-23T09:23:36.453-07:00The Story of Sara NIles in Books<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="649" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/OgHPgxbOSoU" width="526" youtube-src-id="OgHPgxbOSoU"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-45231520784190851232022-03-07T16:42:00.004-08:002022-03-07T16:42:12.946-08:00Doctor Phil on Personality Disorders<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="455" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/3wVQqpDkPKg" width="585" youtube-src-id="3wVQqpDkPKg"></iframe></div><br /> <p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-28888156492762583752021-11-15T17:13:00.002-08:002021-11-15T17:13:19.419-08:00Tyler Perry Speaks Openly About his Childhood Abuse<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/r4saxuqYENs" width="320" youtube-src-id="r4saxuqYENs"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-6737630630485689762021-11-15T12:07:00.005-08:002021-11-15T12:10:41.617-08:00Domestic Violence: WHY don't they JUST Leave? Ted Talk by Leslie Morgan Steiner<p> WHY They Do Not JUST Leave:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="318" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/V1yW5IsnSjo" width="475" youtube-src-id="V1yW5IsnSjo"></iframe></div><br /><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-13764172179288048822021-11-15T11:43:00.003-08:002021-11-15T11:43:29.364-08:00On Sexual Abuse of Male Children: Mike Tyson speaks openly<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/MhApj1Prwlw" width="320" youtube-src-id="MhApj1Prwlw"></iframe></div><br /> <p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-43870073770518117022021-11-15T11:35:00.005-08:002021-11-15T11:37:30.563-08:00On Domestic Violence: :Patrick Stewart<p> Violence and Abuse Touches Everyone</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="307" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/TqFaiVNuy1k" width="320" youtube-src-id="TqFaiVNuy1k"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-16717510437512237072021-11-14T20:27:00.003-08:002021-11-14T20:27:57.010-08:00From the Flower Bed of Eden, to Hell<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Part One<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .25in; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Living on the Flower
Bed of Eden</span></i><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">“You are living on the Flower Bed of Eden!”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Andrew Howard to Little Sara, age five<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Arkansas,
1962 <o:p></o:p></span></i></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i></i></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bWrWNoBPpDU/YZHhq-swajI/AAAAAAAABqI/FEQMm3nDL6MR-y66SrYXgGPMG5PHOkT3QCNcBGAsYHQ/s220/TornCovBOX.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="220" data-original-width="220" height="220" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bWrWNoBPpDU/YZHhq-swajI/AAAAAAAABqI/FEQMm3nDL6MR-y66SrYXgGPMG5PHOkT3QCNcBGAsYHQ/w221-h220/TornCovBOX.jpg" width="221" /></a></i></div><i><br /><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><br /></span></i><p></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><br /></span></i></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 6.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: .5in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;"><i><span style="font-size: medium;">The Flower Bed of Eden</span></i></span></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 6.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: .5in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center;"><i style="text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Arkansas,
February 13, 1987</span></span></i></p><p align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 6.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: .5in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-align: center;"><i style="text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Thunder
rattled the windowpanes two stories high, and lightning split the sky; it was
as if the whole world was in turmoil that night. My nerves were keyed up as
tight as piano strings, and in a sudden moment of stillness and silence it felt
as though my heartbeat was amplified ten times over. He was over a hundred
pounds greater than I, nearly a foot taller, and I knew he could move his
muscled body into unbelievable sprints.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Rain started falling in torrents, while the storm raged outside. I was
not afraid of the storms of nature; it was the storm inside this night that I
knew I might not survive.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 6pt; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Anticipation
was so great that I wanted to scream at him to get it over with, and true to my
expectation he lunged for me, and my body did not disappoint me, I flew down
the stairs two at a time in my bare feet. He stalled for mere seconds to enjoy
his pronouncement of a death sentence upon me:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“<i>I AM GOING TO KILL YOU-YOU GOOD FOR
NOTHING BITCH-STONE DEAD!”</i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He
screamed.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0in; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">It was
February 13, of the year 1987, the night that I disappeared into a February
rainstorm with five children and no place to go. I was twenty-nine years old. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 12pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;">Many people
asked of me since that day, many ‘whys’ and I gave many answers. It takes a lot
of ‘why’s’ to make a life, mine being no exception. Maya Angelou said ‘you
can’t know who I am until you know where I have been’; until you know the
circumstances and people who contributed to the making of me, you cannot know
me. We all are complicated mixes of many other people and life events. We are
all of everything that has ever happened to us. If we suddenly got amnesia, we
would cease to exist as who we were, except in the memory of others. My pain is
<i>me</i>, and thus my life that once was, is what made <i>me</i> now. I am the
hungry little girl who sat in the sand over sixty years ago waiting to be
rescued by an ancient old man. I am Sara Niles, and this is my story.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 12pt; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><b>The Deep South, 1957</b></span></i></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 12pt; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0in;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;">I was born
in the bowels of the South where willow trees hang low over ponds and creeks
surrounded by the lush growth of woody fern. My beginnings were in a place
where knotted old oaks twisted their knurled boughs upwards, their majestic
leafage allowing slithers of light to penetrate the shadowy forest floors to
lend peeks upon the backs of huge Diamondback rattlesnakes; their gargantuan size
owing to seldom meeting the sight of the eyes of man, if ever at all.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;">I was born where the bottomland hoarded teems
of wild boars known to rip hunting dogs open from end to end, and where the
narrow little graveled roads twisted and wound their way past humble mailboxes,
usually the only evidence of habitation miles into the forest. These humble
country homes were usually only accessible by traveling down dirt, tire-rutted
roads with strips of ragged grass running down the middle, like frazzled, green
ribbon. This was oil country, Smackover, Arkansas, where a 1920’s oil boom
produced one of the world’s biggest oil fields that created oil wells that were
scattered every few miles; their slow prehistoric movements signaling that the
owners were receiving money.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;">Neighbors
lived far apart on beautiful little farms or in ragged shacks, with a Cadillac
and a television, or neither plumbing nor electric power lines.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in;">Depending upon which neighbor you were, you
had plenty or nothing at all.</span></p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; punctuation-wrap: simple; text-indent: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 12pt; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0in;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"><br /></span></i></p><i><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 14.0pt;"></span></i><p></p>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480245596978924856.post-45942533808482912822021-08-31T09:12:00.000-07:002021-08-31T09:12:11.237-07:00The #Narcissists' Code 85: Does the #narcissist miss you or regret what ...<iframe style="background-image:url(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/r63RU1vJwjs/hqdefault.jpg)" width="480" height="270" src="https://youtube.com/embed/r63RU1vJwjs" frameborder="0"></iframe>Sara Nileshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04245327218693045888noreply@blogger.com0