ABOUT Sara Niles

I write to make a difference, therefore my writing is mission oriented and imbued with a deeper purpose because of my traumatic life experiences. I write primarily nonfiction that exemplifies mans inhumanity to man, focusing of the triumphant human spirit within us all.

In Torn From the Inside Out, I call this "The power of the human spirit under fire".

Everyone wants to be happy, and everyone wants to be free; yet, suffering abounds worldwide. The injustice of man against man, is no where more unjust than in the home, where brutality abounds through domestic violence. Domestic Violence must be stopped, and if not stopped, at least, slowed. In any case, it must be fought. We were all born free with the right to happiness.

"Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains" Jean Jacques Rousseau

My memoir, Torn From the Inside Out, is a testament to the power of the human spirit under fire.

The Effects of Dysfunction and Domestic Violence are both primary, and secondary in nature, and for many, last a lifetime.

The internal pain caused by childhood abuse, becomes externalized through the triple threats of mental illness, trauma issues, and damaging addictions. I call this triple effect the 'Three Headed Monster'.

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The Face of Dysfunction

Dysfunction Within Families Breeds Dysfunction

Stopping dysfunction in its original form will prevent generational impact that affects individuals, families and society as a whole.

I spent thousands of hours examining people's lives under the microscope of counseling and I continue to see repetitions of the same underlying themes in almost every family. Healthy families beget healthy families and sick families beget families with many of the same sick dysfunctions that they experienced as children. Young boys and girls whose family role models were womanizers or man-users usually womanize or abuse and dispose of men, those whose models drank, usually have a substance abuse problem and those who grew up with hurt, pain, and abuse, usually inflict it upon their families in the same measure, over fifty percent of the time, or they may invariably find a partner who inflicts pain upon them. There are a rare few who escape this repetitive cycle, even though they were raised in it, but they are the exception. Many will marry the negative image of their parent or their opposite in an attempt to recreate what 'love' felt like and looked like to them as a child.

No matter how the child interprets it, when the family model is corrupted then the copy is corrupted. A very wise man that I greatly admired and who was a teacher and trainer once said there was a grandmother who baked a turkey with the edges cut off and both her daughters and granddaughters also baked their turkeys with the edges cut off. When someone asked the granddaughter why she baked her turkey with the edges cut off, she replied because her mother did it that way. When the mother was asked, she replied 'because my mother did it that way' and when the grandmother was asked, she said that she always had a pan that was too small for the turkey so she started trimming the edges so it would fit into the pan.

Dysfunction only needs to operate the first time, the rest will follow. We need to stop dysfunction where it starts in the first family, with the first children. If dysfunction by chance escapes detection, then stop it where you find it.

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Are We on the Brink of Extinction: Siberian Blow Holes and Science

The Earth is sending up danger signals in the form of giant methane blowholes appearing in Siberia, and recently attributed to Global Warming. The images along with the warnings of the world's scientists remind me of  the Movie 2012 and The Day After Tomorrow in which both movies depict the world suffering  a cataclysmic disaster that wipes out millions and throws the world into another Ice Age. 
Before now, scientists speaking of global warming have been looked upon as over zealous professionals engaged in exercises in exaggeration and fear mongering. The earth is speaking out in support of scientist's claims that we may be in the process of self-annihilation as  we greedily compete for the earth's resources without regard for long term consequences. We drill, frack, blow-up and tear down, as Amazon Rain forests are raped of resources, and oil rigs set up shop drilling underground, disturbing the earth's layers and upsetting balances we may not fully understand. The emissions into the atmosphere and the unwelcome blasts into the the earth's crust, may all come with a price tag that is more than we can afford to pay.
Are the scientists right, are we heading toward sure disaster because of Global Warming?
Sara Niles
Image via Siberian Times
There were disastrous 'events' in the past:

"The first five “events” destroyed more than 75 per cent of this planet’s life.
Animals. Plants. Entire ecosystems. The fossil record reveals all were smashed by natural disasters such as asteroids.
It’s happening again: But this time the experts say we are the cause"
Taken from News Corp Australia News Corp Australia: Read more

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