When Love Fails

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Love Never Fails,” is a relative statement, but it is not an absolute truth, because love fails some people. No matter how much you do for them or how long you endure their injurious behavior, forgiving and compromising, relentlessly absorbing their lack of love, in the hope they will change. One sunny day, that person you loved, whether they are a family member or a life partner, you envision the great awakening.

With a tired and broken heart, you long for the day they will realize the vastness of your love for them. You hold out eternal hope that One Day they will miraculously awaken to the realization that you have moved heaven and earth for them, you have suffered deprivation, endured long hard hours of toil and you have spent many sad and lonely nights crying for them. Your martyrdom with not be left unrewarded because they will wake up, and when they do, their hearts will melt with deep appreciation, and you will bask in their reciprocation of your love. They will ‘see’ you, and finally appreciate you. That is the hope of millions of people dealing with narcissistic interlopers who only pretend to have the potential for love.

A Narcissist will deliberately entertain your hopes, baiting you along with the breadcrumbs of affection, storms of love bombing, and future promises; thus, extending the ordeal of wistful hopefulness for years, even decades. All the while you pour out your affection and give your genuine love to a disingenuous Taker. A Love Thief who takes your heart and leaves you suffer the loneliness of despair.

Normal people love ‘normally,’ and the average normal person reciprocates love with gratitude and appreciation in their hearts. Love begets love between all parties involved from the children, parents, friends, neighbors, and whomever else enjoys basking in the rewards of goodness and kindness. There is always at least one narcissists living on the fringes of normalcy, the Taker and the Heart-Breaker, the eternal victim, whose life and circumstances were always sabotaged by circumstances, at least, according to them. The excuse maker, entitled, manipulative, covert, needy and seeking.

Every Normal family has at least one. Although Care is taken to ‘Raise children right’, through careful and deliberate parenting and guidance; despite the fact, the narcissist sneaks into families, faking and taking, under the radar. You may sense their defect, feeling they need more love and understanding, but no matter what you do for them, or how much they take from you, you will never get it back in the form of love, out of the bottomless chasm that they call a heart. Love does not live within them, they will never cherish you, and see your value as a person, they only see your value to them as supply. Once the supply dries up, they will discard you like spent garbage, and never mourn your loss. The worst of them will dispatch you post haste by actively forcing your early demise by despicable means, to serve a secret greedy agenda; an early payout of life insurance money, or worse, they eliminate you for their own pleasure.

Love Cannot Save Them because they do not want to be saved; therefore, your love will fail them, every single time.