The Family System is undergoing a tumultuous domino effect styled set of changes that is eroding its foundations. It is a matter of simple math: the more dysfunctional families become overall, the more generational dysfunction occurs, and the process speeds up one generation at a time. It is like a Family System's decline is similar to global warming and climate change. The more the ice caps melt, the faster global warming proceeds; in a family, the more the foundations erode, the faster the decline. It is in effect the decline of American Civilization reminiscent of Rome as a World Power whose moral decline in favor of independent greed and selfishness, created division instead of unity, which eventually weakened the entire nation as a whole. Once the foundational strength of Rome was weakened, outside factors overcame it as a world power.
The 'Strength of the Wolf is the Pack-and the Strength of the Pack is the Wolf' Kipling said in the Jungle Book; which is true in human terms. A Nation is merely large numbers of people unified by a common cause under a single rulership. The Nation is like 'The Pack' and individuals are like 'The Wolf' that together makes up s strong, united pack we call a Nation. American families are increasingly being weakened by single individuals whose narcissistic greed for Power within the family leads to betrayal and abuse. The family is weakened as more children are growing up damaged from living in a state of domestic trauma akin to a form of psychological warfare. These broken children grow up and parent children within new families in the same brokenness that they experienced. Once The Mold is broken the form with be broken in the same places; therefore we, as a society and a nation have a major crisis developing right under our noses.
Wake Up Call
The most extreme forms of trauma for a child is to suffer the loss of a family member to violent homicide; however even that reaches the limits of human endurance when children WITNESS the murder of one parent by the other in such a heinous act of brutality and betrayal that the average person would never fully recover from it. It would be hoped that such extreme acts of domestic violence within families is rare; but it is not. Family murders by men and even women, results in a Father or Mother killing the entire family, infants and young children included, followed by the cowardly way of exempting oneself from societal consequences-they commit suicide in over half the cases.
Four of more Domestic Violence Homicides are committed in America every day, one male victim for each three female victims. This is the lowest statistical estimate; it is more likely there are twice as many, considering all forms of partner, family related homicides fall into the category of domestic violence homicides. Sons kill 60 year-old mothers and fathers, daughters kill parents and parents kill their own children in alarmingly high numbers. Its a silent war going on right under our noses, and the collateral damage is coming back to haunt us.
The dysfunctional family is where we are bred and trained to become dysfunctional adults in dysfunctional societies and governments. It is apparent that hundreds of millions of people are affected by a lack of moral compass, a lack of positive regard for the rights of others, and decreasing love of self, and of their fellow man. The 'ice caps' of the family systems are melting and we are seeing the impact.
Sara Niles
The Narcissistic Family is on the increase:
