The Turning of the Tide

 The Family System is undergoing a tumultuous domino effect styled set of changes that is eroding its foundations. It is a matter of simple math: the more dysfunctional families become overall, the more generational dysfunction occurs, and the process speeds up one generation at a time. It is like a Family System's decline is similar to global warming and climate change. The more the ice caps melt, the faster global warming proceeds; in a family, the more the foundations erode, the faster the decline. It is in effect the decline of American Civilization reminiscent of Rome as a World Power whose moral decline in favor of independent greed and selfishness, created division instead of unity, which eventually weakened the entire nation as a whole. Once the foundational strength of Rome was weakened, outside factors overcame it as a world power.

The 'Strength of the Wolf is the Pack-and the Strength of the Pack is the Wolf' Kipling said in the Jungle Book; which is true in human terms. A Nation is merely large numbers of people unified by a common cause under a single rulership. The Nation is like 'The Pack' and individuals are like 'The Wolf' that together makes up s strong, united pack we call a Nation. American families are increasingly being weakened by single individuals whose narcissistic greed for Power within the family leads to betrayal and abuse. The family is weakened as more children are growing up damaged from living in a state of domestic trauma akin to a form of psychological warfare. These broken children grow up and parent children within new families in the same brokenness that they experienced. Once The Mold is broken the form with be broken in the same places; therefore we, as a society and a nation have a major crisis developing right under our noses.

Wake Up Call

The most extreme forms of trauma for a child is to suffer the loss of a family member to violent homicide; however even that reaches the limits of human endurance when children WITNESS the murder of one parent by the other in such a heinous act of brutality and betrayal that the average person would never fully recover from it. It would be hoped that such extreme acts of domestic violence within families is rare; but it is not. Family murders by men and even women, results in a Father or Mother killing the entire family, infants and young children included, followed by the cowardly way of exempting oneself from  societal consequences-they commit suicide in over half the cases.

Four of more Domestic Violence Homicides are committed in America every day, one male victim for each three female victims. This is the lowest statistical estimate; it is more likely there are twice as many, considering all forms of partner, family related homicides fall into the category of domestic violence homicides. Sons kill 60 year-old mothers and fathers, daughters kill parents and parents kill their own children in alarmingly high numbers. Its a silent war going on right under our noses, and the collateral damage is coming back to haunt us.

The dysfunctional family is where we are bred and trained to become dysfunctional adults in dysfunctional societies and governments. It is apparent that hundreds of millions of people are affected by a lack of moral compass, a lack of positive regard for the rights of others, and decreasing love of self, and of their fellow man. The 'ice caps' of the family systems are melting and we are seeing the impact.

Sara Niles

The Narcissistic Family is on the increase:

WHEN There is a NARCISSIST in the FAMILY

SARA NILES

Narcissistic Mother

Father

Siblings

Partner 

Impact on Children 

 

TOXIC PATRIARCHY and Roe V Wade 2022

 

Toxic Patriarchy

Cultures begin with families as individuals join forces with nuclear families that expand into the larger communities. Bronfenbrenner proposed that we are all affected by the small influences as well as the great, the microcosms of family to the large aggregate ‘community’ we call government. In America, The original Melting Pot of a conglomeration of cultures from around the world, Patriarchal control was part of the settler’s original structure. The Good Father, the Leader of a Family was the Head of the family-the father. The word Patriarch means ‘Father,’ so it makes sense that the family systems inculcated into the first ‘tribes’ established in The New World were patriarchal in nature, from England to the European influences, and all the smaller influxes in between, revered The Father as the Leader, both literally and symbolically.

Patriarchy was welcomed in an untamed new world in which bears had to be fought, and the wild land tamed. Family structures were tight like that of a wolf pack, with everyone staying close together for safety’s sake. Marriages usually lasted for a lifetime and children remained on ‘the farm’ because there was not much else to do-but farm and hunt on the abundant land. Women welcomed the patriarchal presence as a safeguard, and the idea of Women’s Rights was a far fetched as going to the moon at that time. Science was an infant, there were no modern conveniences and life was all about staying home and working the land, because the land supplied everything needed at that time. Patriarchy was not challenged, and women and children had few ‘rights. Women had twelve or more children to work the farm; and neighbors helped each other. It was a different world then.

Fast Forward two hundred plus years and going to the moon had been accomplished, farm life was for professional farmers who were capable of harvesting thousands of acres with a single machine. Women did not stay home, in fact, no one was at home. The children were in school, men and women at work, and grandparents were sometimes a thousand miles away. Farm Life as it once was no longer existed. The metropolitan cities contained the masses and women had become a huge part of the workforce; but that did not happen overnight or come easily.

The patriarchal system was pleasing to males, because they had all the rights and all the power, especially White Males with Privilege. The Patriarchs Ruled like Kings, setting the laws and the limits imposed on everyone else who was not Them: White Privileged Males. The rights of the many was sacrificed through legislation which was controlled by the Privileged Few. The Few controlled the Rights of the Many, which meant the multitude of Americans had few rights; sometimes NO rights, as in the case of Slaves and Natives, The system that was pleasing to the Privileged Few wreaked a savage toll on the many and they did what the oppressed multitude always does-rebelled.

From the original Boston Tea Party to the Equal Rights Movements and the Civil Rights Movement, they rebelled. The rebellion erupted in violence in every case because the Kings of the Mountain did not want to concede one tiny iota of power, so it had to be taken by force; by protests, and even riots which is what people do when they are repeatedly unheard. From the 1900’s to the 2000’s The People fought for Black Rights, Civil Rights, Women’s Rights, ‘Gay’ Rights, and Religious Rights, all held tightly under the control of the established ‘Patriarchy’ otherwise known as governmental Legislators. The Law was the Gate that either allowed or prevented Freedoms for the many, and The Law was controlled by the ‘Patriarchs’ whose appetite for Power had grown as strong as their greed for money.

Regardless of the resistance by Toxic Patriarchy, the Masses won out: in 1920 Women were finally given the right to vote, but not before men beat their own White Women bloody on the public streets for even ‘asking’ for the vote. Black people were not allowed any real freedoms even after they were legally incorporated into Law, during the same period as the Suffragette Movement. Right were being held in lockdown by the ruling few.

 IN the early 1900’s all Black people, both males and females did not even have the right to exist as equals with White People, much less vote without being assaulted, ran out of town or hung, ‘unofficially’ by lawyers and judges hiding behind white sheets. It was as late as 1964 when Fannie Lou Hamer gave her earth-shaking speech about rights and freedom that sill echoes today; but only thirty-five years earlier Black people were being lynched all over the country for demanding Rights. It was the same time White women were defying Patriarchal Rule by demanding the Vote. The spirit of rebellion was strong with Black people who also rose up and began to fight back. The history books had hidden much of the racial and social drama from that era, but the Truth Always rises to the top.

The 1960’s was one of the bloodiest times since the Civil War, and the entire decade was about fighting for freedom for tyranny and suppression by, guess WHO-White Males in Power, Toxic Patriarchy. Eventually the voters decided to vote in leaders whose eyes were less on their pocketbook and more on the scales of justice; but the pendulum swung backwards when the Republican Tea Party Movement took over in favor of two extreme views: Pro Toxic Patriarchy and Pro Right-Wing Extremism; then along came a spider Called Trump and the Rest went downhill from there. Trump, who was the epitome of White Male Privilege and Toxic Patriarchy, emboldened the extremists, polarizing the Toxic Atmosphere in the United States as ‘Us’ against ‘Them,’ which was the perfect smoke screen for the intensive damage he wreaked.

The Supreme Court of the United States hold the power to unravel unjust laws in favor of justice, or to do the opposite. Trump appointed radical judges whose focus was skewed, and now we have a Landmark Law that was ‘established Law’ that each judge vowed not to touch-but they lied.

Roe V Wade was established in 1973 ending the long history of coat hanger deaths and throwaway children, giving women the right to control what happens inside their own bodies. It was a major win for Women’s Rights and a huge know against Toxic Patriarchy.

Toxic Patriarchy came back with a vengeance: Roe V Wade was struck town by the SCOTUS, overturned TODAY June 24, 2022. Toxic Fail.

 

 

TOXIC POWER

 

Toxic and Lethal: Malignant Narcissism with Dark Triad Traits

 

Three to Four DV Homicides PER day in the United States reveals there is a dangerous subgroup of Abusers: Who are they?

What is a NARCISSIST?

 

SARA NILES

COWARDLY Mass Shooter Salvador Ramos: murdered innocent, helpless children and adults

           By SARA NILES

There are ALWAYS Red Flags: Distant, 'Strange', Isolated, History of being Bullied, History of Bullying, Covert Mask hiding Aggressiveness, Poor Family Relationships, Poor School Performance, Few Friends, A Tendency to Hoard Anger, Attraction to Power symbols, Affiliation with Right Wing Violent Entities, Angry Drawings and Communication, Sinister Threats, Social Media Presence focuses on Self-Vindication, and Red Flag Behaviors noticed by School Professionals or Work Mates.

SOCIOPATHIC Salvador Ramos showed Red Flags Before Texas Mass School Shooting:

The news articles are proliferating, and the details are coming out, such as Ramos was bullied at school, and he was also a bully who carried boxing gloves around picking fights. Ramos had a poor relationship with his mother and often screamed disrespectful expletives at her when she pressured him for not attending school, which often resulted in his escaping to his grandparents’ house, where his grandmother also yelled at him for refusing to attend school which was the reason he would not graduate with his class.

Although Ramos seemed 'quiet' to some associates, he was known to have a dark streak according to others, which is usually a sign a person is hiding their true self, the preliminary behavior of ‘wearing a mask' of normalcy on the surface while cultivating hatred internally. It is impossible to read an individual's mind, but through patterns of behavior over time, we can discern intentions, motivations, and beliefs. Ramos, according to reports had disdain for females, as expressed through disrespectful remarks he was known for. 

POWER: Every healthy individual required personal power to be happy and stable; however, power is like pie, each person is allotted a fair share of power. The boundary of respect for the rights of others, defines the limits of personal power. In the case of bullied children, and those who feel slighted in life, either because they have toxic entitlement, or because they were unjustly treated, power becomes an allure. It is 'The Thing' they need to feel whole, or it is what they are greedy for to feel better than others, superior to others. Narcissistic people long for power because they are empty inside, so there is never a level of power satiation for them-never enough-because they are attempting to fix a wound by covering it up.

RAGE: Every mass murderer has rage, but not the loud obvious type that screams they have a problem-it is the hidden rage that is the most dangerous, the Sneaky, Cold, Calculating, COWARDLY RAGE that devours them to the point they act it out on innocent children. The epitome of Cowardice personified. The entitled child, harbors resentment below the surface, and if it continues to grow, it becomes a Dark Fantasy of Revenge that erupts in a violent assault upon the innocent-JUST LIKE the horrific Columbine School Shooting, The Sandy Hook Shooting, the Marjorie Stoneman Douglas Shooting, and Once Again we see the ugliness of societal apathy-and Republican Greed-

The Robb School Shooting in Uvalde, TEXAS, on May 24, 2022. Twenty-two people dead.

The Legislative Irony: Salvador Ramos BOUGHT two guns this month, although he is not old enough to buy Liquor or Cigarettes.